Oh! Oh! Oh! Oooooooh No.

I'm sure I'm not the only person this happens to. You're on the brink of the most amazing orgasm you've ever experienced, just a couple more thrusts and you'll be there. From (well usually in our case) behind you, you hear "I'm gonna cum!" And before you can spit out "Don't you fucking dare!" it's all over. Your perfect orgasm is but a fleeting memory. This has happened maybe four times in our relationship, and I still hold a grudge about it. I feel like I have been robbed.

G says that it happens because I'm so so into it that it turns him on and sends him over the edge. I say he's an asshole. Agree to disagree, I guess. But, where I am going with this, and what I have learned from this after the last time it happened, is that it doesn't have to be the end for you.

Yes, it's not going to be that perfect, amazing orgasm you had been so worked up about, but it will be good. Now, if you are uber comfortable, there is always masturbating in front of your partner, this will usually turn them on as well and get them ready for round #2. Personally, I am not that liberated. I still have issues worrying about him seeing my area when he goes down on me, so yes, masturbating is still a bit too taboo for me. I may get there one day, but let this filly learn to walk before pushing me to run!

Another option is toys. I don't have many. Two, in fact. I have a little vibrator:

He was my first foray into sex toys, and G, of course bought him for me. He's handy, but strictly clit stimulation, because he is abouthtisbig. I also have a vibrating dildo. It is quite the contraption, to be honest with you. Ah, found it. It's dubbed "Butterfly Kisses" (strangely enough, it does not make me want to listen to the song.)

Now, this guy is something I can get behind. I can't remember exactly, but I think it has something like 15 speeds...and I love it. Sadly, we have worn out pretty much all the speeds, which leaves us with the fastest consistent vibration setting. I'm still a fan. Yes, it is that good.

But to get back on track, these are always an option too. G really does love using them on me, and obviously I'm not going to turn it down, so if this is an option for you, do it! If it isn't, seriously consider purchasing a toy even for these instances. If I didn't have them, probably the second time that G came too fast, I would have been found guilty for murder.

The last option I can think of off the top of my head (sorry I really should have done more research for this, but I wanted to get this done while it was fresh in my mind), is good unadulterated oral. As I said before, I am so unbelievably self conscious about it, but once G gets that magic tongue going, I couldn't give a fuck.

Basically, you have the power to turn a shitty sexual experience around. So, he/she doesn't offer to do these things, surprise them with it. They might be so shocked that you even thought of it that it will be enough of a turn on to get you to where you need to be. That being said, any tips for slowing G the fuck down? Is there anything that you do to stop yourself? ALL tips welcome.

Well, that's our time for now, lovers.

Ever yours,

Blushing xx

 

Blindfolds Ahoy!

I have no idea what on earth possessed me to put "Ahoy" in the title. But it's there, and we'll deal with it. This hot mama's escapade goes back a couple of nights since I have been super busy with work etc. Well, G and I decided to shower (two birds one stone), which we have been doing a lot of lately. Showering together that is, of course we shower regularly haha. The only problem that I have with our tandem showers is that we get very aroused in there. Why on earth would that be a problem, you ask? Lack of condom. Yes we are married, BUT I don't want an "oops" situation. The pill makes me quite literally psychotic, the needle makes me gain weight and apparently an IUD isn't the best thing. So, that leaves the condom.

So every time we have a shower together we get to a point that we need to fuck, like now. But it's just not possible because of reasons already explained. So I end up with female blue balls, as it were. Any tips for not having to deal with this? Other than the obvious "don't shower together".

So we had showered together and jumped into the sack. G wanted to 69 which I hadn't always been a fan of, but being the newly liberal woman that I am, I agreed. Now here's the thing. I am very very self conscious about my post-baby body and that very much includes my vag. So a little light bulb went off and I worked the September challenge into the mix. I told him he had to be blindfolded. G was, well let's say, not too impressed but if it meant that we got to 69, he would. I grabbed a scarf and tied it extra tight to make sure he wouldn't peek (he really is quite a scoundrel).  I didn't think about it for myself because well, I've been face first in his cock many a time.
 
I have never really had much done to me orally. It wasn't ever something I had wanted done to me. Well, let me tell you,I came hard and fast. I was actually kind of embarrassed that I had literally orgasmed on his face, but in the aftermath he had said it was hot. After I came we quickly switched to missionary with G pushing my legs pretty much to my ears. It felt amazing but I needed him to go harder and faster. Turns out he needed to too. Overall, maybe one of the best fuckings I have ever had.

G said that the blindfold didn't really make a difference, mostly because we usually have sex in the dark (because of my insecurities). He thought that it would have been better if we had actually had sex with the lights on; that would have been different. So, while the blindfold itself wasn't a success, 69ing definitely was. I will also state for the record that I won't be striking this off of the challenge because both or us weren't blindfolded. G suggested that next time I should just be blindfolded. Maybe I should let him tie me up as well? What do you think??

 Ever yours,

Blushing xx

Hair Pulling Confessions

I have never had my hair pulled in a sexual way. I guess it just never came up/maybe none of the past partners I have had were in to it. I'll admit, I have always thought to myself "Why would anyone want that?" It just didn't make sense to me.

That being said, two nights ago, G and I found ourselves more than ready to push through with another challenge. (On a side note: G doesn't really know about the September challenge. It was more of a "Hey, I think we should spice up our sex life and here's what we're going to do..." So he really is under the impression that he's super spoiled right now. I'm definitely okay with that.) Back to what I was saying though, we entered into some regular foreplay (again, that lube is AMAZING) read: licking and sucking nipples, fingering and kissing. We were laying down, spooning me and I was dying to have him in me. Of course he obliged, but it was getting too hot too soon, so he had to hold off for a couple of minutes.

He than flipped me over and we were on our way in "doggy-style". That's when my mind cleared a bit and I remembered the challenge. "Pull my hair!" I'm not sure if I threw him off with that, but he grabbed a handful. It surprisingly felt great.  I'm not sure what it was about it, but it gave me a bit of an adrenaline rush. He was pretty quick to cum after that.

I asked him afterwards what he thought. He mostly focused on the fact that it gave him more "leverage" haha. Well, it worked for me! All I'm going to say, is that if you haven't tried it, give it a shot. You may be surprised!

Ever yours,

Blushing xx 

 

Dialing "O" on the Pink Telephone

Alright, so here's the thing. I have heard countless times that you can't expect your partner to please you if you don't know how to please yourself. Anyone else heard this? That's all well and good, but I just feel so so awkward and ridiculous even thinking about it.

I've kind of made it a mid-New Year's resolution to stop being so ridiculous about it. G likes to tease me about it, not only because how awkward and stutter-y I get about it, but my face also turns beet red. That's right lady & gents, I am the whole package. Please don't be too upset that you're missing out on this.

We have a jacuzzi bath tub a moveable faucet (think shower head), so I have been toying with the idea of using it. Mostly because that's literally the only time I get to myself (if I'm lucky). I know it's silly but I really worry about how I look. Vanity is my middle name, people. I would love to think I would look sultry like:

But I just know it would be more like this:

Do any of you worry about this too? Or am I the only masturbatory narcissist? Any tips for using the faucet? Any tips for masturbating in general? Keep your fingers crossed for me, lovers.

Ever yours,

Blushing xx
 

Lubey Lube

So we tried out the new lube last night. Let me preface this by saying that after I got done work we quickly got ready for a birthday party. After the birthday party (loooong, lots of bugs), we got home and surprisingly got the kids to sleep relatively fast. I asked G if he wanted to use by boobs to get off and of course he obliged. (I'm pretty sure he would be all for ANY way to get off, to be honest.)

He needed to shower first and asked if I wanted to join. Figured I might as well it's been a long ass time since we have enjoyed a nice shower together. Of course soapy slippery bodies = ample foreplay. I stopped him before we got too into it and suggested we go to the bedroom. I was worried that in the time that we dried off the moment would be lost, but both our engines were still revving. (Terrible. Sorry, I don't know why I have cars on the brain.) We got into bed and resumed some foreplay: kissing, nipple licking/sucking and rubbing each other, of course. I hadn't planned on having sex because it was my first day clear of Shark Week, so I always get nervous that I'll start up again. With that being said, G tried titty fucking me but apparently that wasn't enough for him. He quickly rolled me over and we started having sex doggy style. Apparently the time that we haven't had actual sex (all of a week) really got to him because he came FAST. I was more than a little annoyed. I'll give him props for at least making sure that I got off, though. It's just one of those moments when I was so so close and I hear him say "I'm gonna come!" I of course say "Don't you dare!" but it's too late. But, what can you do.

So, I didn't mention the lube, which was of course the whole reason for this post. G didn't get much "tingle" from it, he said it just felt like normal lube for him. I, on the other hand, fucking loved it. I was still tingling after I had came, and to be honest I think it really helped in getting me there as I was super tired and not too into it at first.  I would completely recommend it. I was really worried it would be the same sensation that the heating lubes have, but it wasn't and again, I loved it. So if you're looking for something little to spice up your sex life and are too nervous to get into the world of toys and props just yet, this is the way to go.

Edit: I am also kicking myself for not having G pull my hair, I could have crossed that off the list! I am also not counting this as the titty fuck on the list because it was too short-lived, so you will be getting a good account probably later in the month (once Shark Week shows up again, I assume).

Until next time..

Keep it steamy, lovers.

Blushing xx

  

Happy Labour Day Weekend!

Though we got some oral in earlier in the week, it's been pretty hectic so that's as far as we have gotten. Work has been a huge pain in the ass and I've been going on a day to day type of schedule. But I was able to sneak out and grab some new lube for us to try:

Hopefully it's a keeper! I have used a heating one in the past, and I'm not going to even attempt to sugar coat it. My vag felt like it was literally on fire. I was NOT a fan. That being said, I am still dealing with Shark Week so looks like tonight might end in some titty-fucking. (Is there a nice way to put that?) Well, G will be getting some booby love --it's a bit better--and he can tell me his thoughts on the "tingle" lube.

With that, my lovelies, I am going to go shower, watch a movie and relax with G. Hope everyone is having an amazing weekend, be safe!

Ever Yours,

Blushing xx

Sept Challenge Day #1: Spiderman Oral

I know, I know. It's not September yet. I can't decide if this classifies as cheating or if it's just because I've always been an eager beaver (pun intended). Sometimes, the stars just align for this sort of thing. I thought that was going to be the case last night, I was still dealing with "Shark Week" so I figured "Meh, might as well". I don't know, I always hear about these women who give oral consistently when they are on their period. I, personally, think it at the very least was a myth started by men to tap into that little part of our mind still being run a teenager (Oh..really? Everyone's doing it? Maybe I should do it too.). For anyone interested, this part of the brain is also responsible for our relentless love for boy bands, The Spice Girls, terrible teen comedies, mood rings and gimp. (Shit, I forgot about gimp!) Anyways, to get back on track, I just don't believe that some woman one day thought to herself, "Well, I can't have sex, but I just love giving pleasure so so much.  I hope he'll let me give him a blowjob." But this is coming from the same cynic that doesn't understand women that love giving oral, so I digress.

Back to the stars aligning. They didn't. I mentioned the idea to G earlier in the night and he was all for it. (Two nights of oral in one week?! Of course he was on board.) That being said, he had been complaining about a sore back the past couple of nights and I really didn't even take that into consideration. Neither did he though. He heard "Maybe you can give me a pearl necklace" and rushed through the night as fast as he could. We also had a heavy dinner. Again, I am a novice at this...don't judge me. Than our kids, who are usually asleep by 8 p.m. decided they wanted to know what staying up until 11 p.m. was like.

When we finally settled into bed, it looked like I had been defeated. I offered a couple more times, but he didn't want to get up and shower (no shower = no balls ANYWHERE near my face). With that, I got up to make sure I locked the door (anyone else seriously OCD about that?) and when I came back, G was gone! He had hopped into the shower. When he got back, I asked what made him decide to go through with it (I probably should have whispered it in a sexy voice, again people, I'm new!) and his reply had something to do with knowing his luck, today I would be "over" all the sex(y) things I mentioned doing.

To be honest, I'm shocked that he's wasn't right.

So, I got into position. The positioning of it is why I so lovingly named it "Spiderman Oral". It reminds me of the upside down kiss that he and MJ (??) shared. If you can get that image into your head, you understand what I mean. For those that aren't familiar with Spiderman: First of all, where the fuck were you in the early 2000s? Secondly, you're going to want to lie down on your back, be it on the bed, couch, whatever. You're going to want to be comfortable though. You're going to hang your head off your bed and your partner is going to stand in front of you. Essentially you're going to be upside down when you take his penis in your mouth. Sounds pretty straight forward/easy right? Not so much.

Don't get me wrong, it wasn't that bad. I just don't think the person who came up with this move too into consideration the different ratios of bed height to partner's groin. So, I'm laying down on the bed, on my back, head hanging off the side and G walks up naked. His dick is maybe a quarter of a foot above me. The "old" me--the prudish me--the me that didn't really give a fuck about sex--well, she would have given up. Maybe not given up completely and went to bed, but she would have just ended up giving a regular BJ or more likely, a hand job.

Well, not this lady! I think I surprised G with how determined I was. I quickly grabbed a couple of pillows and took him in my mouth. It was still awkward because I had to pull him down so much I felt like I was hurting him. Than the light bulb went off. I have a huge round pillow that my Mema made me (forgive me Mema). I threw that under my head and tried again. MUCH better. Now that I was down to business, it gave me a chance to kind of "assess" the situation. I mean, I opened my eyes. Maybe not the smartest move. I had to stifle a couple of giggles because believe me, the entire package looks, well, different upside down. The blog post I had read on this mentioned that she had a terrible gag reflex and that this helped it a bit. I don't really have that issue unless I have a rogue hair in my mouth, but I honestly felt like I was taking more of him in my mouth than I usually do. Than there's the balls. I have literally never touched them so, putting them in my mouth was kind of a big deal. I still don't understand them, to be quite honest. They're very mysterious to me, almost like a leathery unicorn. Which, by the way, is the texture you're going to get (not a unicorn, jesus)..leather. I licked and fondled them intermittently, sorry that's really all I have for you so far on the "balls" topic. I noticed that G wasn't really thrusting, which seemed a little off to me. That's when it happened, I noticed the lean beginning. He had started to lean on the bed a bit, which worked better for me as it gave me a better angle. However, this "bit of a lean" started to turn into a ridiculous lean that had his balls mere cms away from my eyes. I finally had to pull away and say "So, um...you're almost tea-bagging my eyes." He laughed, said sorry and that it was because he back hurt.

 I was back on my merry way for about two minutes when I realized that our time with Spiderman oral was coming to a close. G had begun leaning again. If his back hurt this much, there was no way he was going to be able to get into it enough. So, he laid down on the bed and I went back to business. Now, again, I am a novice at sucking dick. It's never been something I have enjoyed, so I just steered clear of it. That being said, I picked up a tip that will help those of you that can't take very much in your mouth: use your hand. Yes, I said it. Make your hand into kind of an "OK" sign:

 Put it right against your lips. Keep it pressed against your lips as you take the dick in and out of your mouth. Again, it makes it seem like you are taking more of him into your mouth than you are. This was what sent G over the edge last night.

After he had cleaned up, we talked about the experience a bit. He said that while the Spiderman felt different, he wasn't sure what it was that made it feel different. He liked it, even went so far as to say it was "amazing". His favourite aspect though, was how I used my hand to "elongate" my mouth. All in all, I would say it was a success. I even became turned on during it and had I not been on my period, this would have definitely ended differently.

I wonder if G has realized he missed out on a certain something....

Ever yours,

Blushing xx